Well, yeah, because I'm one person and I can't do it all in one day. Welcome to the Only Child Diaries Podcast. I'm your host, Tracy Wallace. Have you ever felt like you didn't receive the how-to brochure on life? That you didn't get enough guidance about major life issues? So did I. You don't have to be an only child to feel this way. In my podcast, we'll explore some of the best ways to better navigate adulthood. While doing so, with humor and light. Welcome everyone to the Only Child Diaries Podcast. Today I'm going to talk to you about marriage again, an aspect of marriage. Now, you'll notice that my episodes about marriage, and this is marriage part four, don't seem to be very long. They're just little snippets here and there. They're slices of my married life. And today the theme is the vows for better or for worse, for richer for poor, in sickness and in health. Now we have been challenged this week by the latter part in sickness and in health. My husband has been going to PT, physical therapy, for about three weeks now to improve his strength and balance. And I would say that this time there's a noticeable improvement. There has been a noticeable improvement. And so it's been a good thing. However, this past week, uh, he was complaining that he had a cramp in his calf, and they did some things. I'm not gonna really go into detail about what happened, and that was Monday. By Wednesday, he was starting to feel like it was harder to sit down, and by Thursday, the the pain had traveled up into his hip and his lower back, and it had left the calf. But um he was experiencing severe back pain, and what we think it is is an irritated nerve. That's what I I mean, I don't know what to hope for anymore, but there's you know, a handful of things that it could be that are not as good if you could say that, but uh good, but um so anyway, he has been only comfortable in a laying down position. And we have an adjustable bed, so the the head comes up and the feet come up or down, and so he's been trying to put the head up so he's kind of more in a like a recliner position. That's not even comfortable. Um, he has been able to get out of bed and walk a small amount of steps, but it's been really rough. So, what do you do when someone you love is unable to get out of bed? And if you think about that, I'm not gonna go into detail, but if you think about that uh for any length of time, uh there's a whole list of things that come up, and uh he's just dependent on me, and it's not fun for him, certainly, it's not fun for me either, but that's part of what it means to be married and to be in a committed relationship, I guess, but definitely to be married is that you know, one person is down and the other person takes care of them no matter what. When I had my knee replacement surgery, he took care of me the best that he could. He's not a woman, he's not a mom kind of figure, but he and he's not as he's not as able-bodied as I am, but he did he did pretty well. Uh, but it does definitely put a um um extra work on you, and I have to think about it and think it through, and I get up and down a lot more, and I'm tired already. And um, the people that we've talked to so far about it, um, an irritated or aggravated nerve is gonna take longer to recover. So that's where we are. Um, but in the meantime, there's other things that have been going on. Last week I have I had my lunch, my work lunch that I did for 25 people, and that was a lot of work. Uh, it was a cultivation lunch, and it turned out, I think, pretty well. Everyone, everyone seemed happy with it, at least. And then we had the memorial for my friend Neliya on Friday, a memorial mass, and then however the Catholics say it, and then we had uh lunch afterwards. And all things considered, that went as well as it was gonna go for a sad kind of a sad event, right? And in between all these things, I've been working on my Halloween decorations because it's almost October and I want to have those up. We had a little bit of rain, which I mean we had incredible heat, we've had humidity, I've had a lot of work, I've had a lot of things to do for my friend who lost her mom. I've had my husband. I have my own things that I want to do, and then I, you know, with the Halloween. So a lot, a lot of distractions. I've had neighbors walking by. We have a lot of people that walk in the neighborhood, they walk their dogs, they just walk for their own health and people walking by, and a lot of um, especially men, have stopped and said, Oh, you started early. Well, yeah, because I'm one person and I put up a lot of stuff, and I can't do it all in one day. Uh, hello. So I mean, it's yeah, yesterday was Saturday, and I worked all afternoon. I put up an inflatable, I worked on finishing our headless horseman, which I was really out of uh my mind with that, because that's totally my husband's project, but I had to kind of figure that out, and I don't have that kind of it's an animatronic thing, and I had to kind of figure that out. Then I had done my DIY ghosts, which if you look at our Instagram, you'll see them. Um, and the in the beginning, when I was first creating the DIY ghosts, I didn't like them. I thought they were gonna look like crap, but I think they turned out pretty good. I had seen a photo that somebody did of these ghosts with the centerpiece thing in the middle, and I thought I wanted I want to do that. It doesn't look exactly like theirs, but um people have said, oh, I really like what you did. So I think I did okay. I don't think I got an A plus if I was being created by the Halloween, um, the Halloween police or the Halloween instructor system. But I think I did pretty good. Uh would I ever make a DIY thing again? No. I've I've seen some DIY projects online on YouTube that are really incredibly cool, but I don't think that I'm set up to do a DIY. Uh I'd rather have somebody make it for me or buy it. Or, you know, just that's just me. Um, and I'm still working, I'm trying to finish up the taxes. I've talked about this in the last couple weeks, and I here's the thing: you have to ask people for things when it's business hours, right? And I've been busy during business hours. I did find a couple more things this week, a couple bits of information. There's still some things that are major that I still need to follow up on that people haven't given me. So I'm trying, I'm really I'm trying, but I need to set a deadline for that. And I know what you're gonna say. I know what you're gonna say. I know what you're gonna say. Those of you out there who are organized are gonna tell me that I should have finished the taxes before I worked on the Halloween decorations, and I totally agree with you. However, well, I have well, I have no I have no comeback for that. Because you're right, I should have. It would have motive motivated me a lot better, and I probably would have finished the taxes by now, but I'm guilty. Uh I'm guilty. What can I say? And I still have to finish up the interview that I did with Leslie. I think it was earlier this month. I hope it was this month. This thing with Bill now has really put me behind. However, I'm gonna have to get to it. Things it feels like things are freeing up now. My time is is getting yeah, it doesn't feel that way. I just I feel like I just want to sit with my phone and I just want to binge watch some really stupid show for a while. Um, but there's lot there's always lots to do. Anyway, that's what I'm up to. Uh important to always uh think about your partner when you're married, right? It's important, and um, and that's really my number one priority over everything. Um, over work, definitely over Halloween, definitely over taxes. Can I say that? And uh yeah, so I'm just hoping that he gets better by by our next episode. So I'm gonna go and check in on him now, and um next week, well, we'll tackle another topic together. I hope you'll join me. If you like this episode, please follow the Only Child Diaries Podcast on Apple Podcasts or other platforms you might listen on. And consider rating Only Child Diaries and writing a review. It helps others to find us. Please share it with a friend you think might like it as well. Visit my Instagram page, only child diaries, or Facebook, Only Child Diaries Podcast. Thanks for listening. I'm Tracy Wallace, and these are the Only Child Diaries.